Come What May

I have a new philosophy. At first blush, I am not one to believe in philosophies. However, I believe in learning lessons from all that life hands us. I search for words in life lessons:

“When you know better, you do better.”-Maya Angelou

“I love the person I’ve become, because I fought to become her.”-Kaci Diane

“Never put the keys to your happiness in someone else’s pocket.”-unknown

“My religion is very simple. My religion is kindness.”-Dalai Lama

While I search for meanings in the things I experience in life, and words to help me in times of need, I am not usually a person who is prone to looking for-or using-philosophies. Perhaps the philosophies come to me in the guise of thought. Perhaps thoughts are philosophies.

My new philosophy is simple and yet amazingly complex at the same time….

“Come what may."
 
Over the last month I have found myself saying this phrase several times. The first time I remember recently saying the phrase was when I was about to have my medical tests done. (You can read about that experience here....)

A friend of mine questioned why I was having the testing done. I replied, “Because I want to have a baseline for my doctor, and I want to know where I stand. If there is something I need to work on, I want to know about it. Come what may.”

Of course saying the phrase initiates visions of Ewan McGregor and Nicole Kidman singing this phrase in the movie “Moulin Rouge”….

Musical numbers aside, I find that I truly embrace this philosophy. Like any philosophy, it is open to interpretation.
As I interpret it, the meaning of this phrase is: “Whatever happens happens.” Or, told another way: “Let go and let God.”
In this way, the phrase is intrinsically simplistic. Yet it is far more complex than at first sight.

“Come what may” gives us the opportunity to let go of the illusion that we are in control. We like this illusion. We like to believe that we are in control of everything in our lives. This is simply not the case.

Looking back on my life, I feel that I have always had this philosophy, to some degree.  Let me give you an example. Several years ago, I applied for a new job within my organization. I liked where I was working and the people I was working with. Yet, I felt I was in need of a challenge, that I wanted to learn and do something new.

While I yearned for change, it can be a scary thing. I weighed the pros and cons and wrestled with the decision to apply for the job. “Should I apply? This will change my life.” After much soul searching I applied for the job. I knew that, if I did not get the new job, I had a job I still liked doing, with co-workers I enjoyed working with, and that I would be fine whether I got that job or not. Come what may, I had nothing to lose.

Long story short, I did not get that job. However, I was glad I applied. I got to update my resume, refresh my interview skills, meet new people within my organization, and I got to learn how another division within my organization works. 

Let me give you another, more recent example. A year or so into my writing career, I dreamt of becoming a published author. However, how could I go about it? The thought of compiling my writing and sending it to publishing companies for their approval was too daunting a task for me to consider. What if they rejected me? What if they told me my writing was not good enough? What if I believed their opinion as truth?

As I thought about the options of becoming a published author, I had a conversation with one of the patrons who came in my library. One day, a co-worker asked this gentleman what he did for a living. He replied that he was an author. My co-worker asked him, “Who published your book?” He replied confidently, “I did.” I remember thinking to myself, “Really? You can do that?”

It was at that moment I began the long and arduous journey to form my own publishing company and publish my writing. A year and a half later, I have published my first e-book….

I will shortly publish the book version.

None of this would have happened without the inkling of a thought. Come what may, I knew I had to try to make this dream come true. And, to be truthful, that is all it was at that moment. A dream. But I knew I had to act.

“I should try this. Come what may. What do I have to lose? It’s not like this will change my life.” 

Believe me, it already has.

I am ready for whatever happens, whatever lessons I am yet to learn, whatever life has in store for me.

Come what may.

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