Trust
The other day I
was approached by an online friend-he was upset and needed to talk. I wrote
this person and asked what was wrong. He then stated that he had just broken up
with his girlfriend. It was obvious that he needed to talk about it, and I was
more than happy to let him talk. This young man asked me many questions, most
of which were on the topic of how to recover from a broken heart. I told him
that we have all been rejected, and we have all had a broken heart. He then asked
me a profound question: “How do you trust again?”
To me, that was
a deeply profound question. At first, I wasn’t sure how he meant it. I wasn’t
sure if he was asking how he could trust the person that had broken his heart;
I also wondered if he was asking how to trust in people again, since he had
just had such a heart breaking experience. I began telling him a quote I had
recently heard online: “Trust is like a crumpled up piece of paper. Once it has
been crumpled up, it will never be the same again.” I told him what I believe,
and how I look at trust.
Yes, I have had
a friend lie to me, treat me like dirt and break my heart. But, that experience
has not made me recoil into a shell and not talk to anyone. I conduct myself as
I always have. I am truthful with my friends.
To answer the
question, “How do you trust someone again who has hurt you?” I don’t have an
answer for that question.
I don’t think I could ever trust someone that hurt me that deeply ever again.
But, to answer
the question, “How do you trust again?” For me, it was easy. Other people didn’t
hurt me, it was just that one person. I still believe in people. I believe in
the good in people. I have learned to not expect much from other people. If
they don’t live up to their promises, I can’t be disappointed.
Be open to
possibilities. Guard yourself to protect yourself when needed. Be willing to
trust. But, at the same time, do not trust blindly. Don’t punish your friends
or family or the world for something one person did. Pray for that person; let
the hurt go. Be open to trust.
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